Patterns:

We are hardwired for connection and bonding and when that bond becomes stressed, couples begin to rely on ineffective strategies like withdrawing or criticizing or attacking, all in a desperate attempt to reconnect, fix the problem.  

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) looks to uncover the patterns that couples repeatedly fall into and help them reach out to each other in new ways; ways that are more effective. EFT teaches new ways of connecting and new ways of handling conflict and has been shown to be effective for 70-90% of couples, moving the partnership from a place of stress and tension to one of secure connection.

The Hold Me Tight®workshop uses the principles of EFT in a condensed version to begin to move people towards increased connection and a healthier way to understand and manage their conflict.

*This is a workshop model and not appropriate for a couple in severe distress or a couple with active addiction issues.  Those couples would be better served in an individual treatment model.


Goals

  • Recognize the “demon dialogues” that all couples get caught in 
  • Explore the feelings and needs underneath your behaviors
  • Learn to respond to each other more effectively
  • Deepen both emotional and physical intimacy
  • Repair and forgive old hurts and injuries
  • Discover the emotional connection that creates greater bonding and can keep your love alive so your relationship becomes the safe harbor it was meant to be
  • Affirm strengths in your relationship
  • Address negative interaction patterns
  • Recognize underlying reasons for your conflicts
  • Learn how to repair and forgive
  • Improve your communication

How We Get there

Dr. Gamby offers private couples therapy and 2-day intensive workshops. Gamby will teach you about the science underlying love. She will explain the strategies that couples use and the patterns they develop and then give each couple the space and privacy to explore each of these concepts in depth. You will leave with a new understanding of your partner's vulnerabilities and how they collide with your own. Dr. Gamby and the EFT exercises will guide you in reaching towards each other in new ways, in ways that are more effective. Most couples leave therapy and the workshops feeling deeply connected and soothed, with new ways to communicate and new ways to turn to their partner.  

*This is a workshop model and not appropriate for a couple in severe distress or a couple with active addiction issues.  Those couples would be better served in an individual treatment model.